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“Why did you write a book?”

Hey Icon Army,

When we started this band a few years back, I could not have guessed I would one day write a book. I just wanted to connect with other people who felt like I did, and I wanted to use the most powerful weapon I knew: music.

As we grew, it became clear our music was attracting a certain type of people. The messy ones. The hungry ones. The kinds of people who were going against the grain and had been through some real, intense stuff in their lives.

My kind of people.

So when I started learning how to overcome my own pain and internal demons, it became massively important to me that I didn’t hold out on our listeners.

These people had seen me through some dark times, I owed it to them to be honest when I found something that was working.

I started making videos and writing blog posts, trying to convey what it meant to survive life’s struggles and come out stronger on the other side. I even started doing one-on-one phone call sessions with our fans-anything to help move us all further along faster.

Because I knew that every day drenched in sadness feels like forever when you’re in the middle of it.

But still, I knew that it was time for me to face my fears and create something I had never made before.

And it was time to share the most personal parts of my story, the parts our fans had never heard before.

It was time to break myself wide open and tell you everything. 

Writing this book was the scariest thing I’ve ever done. Opening up on the page-just me, without the music-took a lot of courage.

But I did it for the same reason I do everything; for you. Because I escaped the misery that used to be my normal, and how dare I keep that secret to myself?

The truth is this: I’ve known deep, overwhelming pain, and now I know how to live free, at peace with myself, and I am totally committed to pulling others out of the mess and into a better life. I want you to have that, too.

I don’t have all the answers. But I do know that learning to love and accept myself has changed everything. I desperately want you to have the same chance that I had. I want you to be happy, and free.

Turn Your Pain Into Art comes out January 12, 2018, and I’d be honored to have your early vote of confidence and for you to pre-order it here.

Thank you for always inspiring me, and supporting my art making!

Love you so.

Written By: Icon For Hire

Comments: 4

  • Your Name

    Reply January 7, 2018 11:18 pm

    Thank you so much for being honest with your struggles and demonstrating that even us who grapple with pain can rise and become beacons of hope, that our dreams are worth following, that we as human beings are worth believing in. Thank you for being so inspiring.

  • Erica

    Reply January 24, 2018 9:16 pm

    Hey Ariel I cannot wait to read your book! I was wondering if you would like to make a donation to the April Showers Raffle for the MTZ Les Femmes, You’ve Got Male, and Premier? Just send me an email if so and I will get you the info. Can’t wait to see you again! We miss you!

  • marcus heale

    Reply June 1, 2018 4:13 am

    Hey there Icon, i just want to stop by and say the you are f**king incredible. I first discovered you about 6 months ago (kinda late to the party i know) with your music video on youtube ‘make a move’, but it wasn’t until hearing ‘Now you know’ that i truly appreciated just how unbelieveably amazing and relevant you are 🙂 I had the great misfortune of missing your turn your pain into art tour both while holidaying in the US and back when i was in the UK (despite actually purchasing VIP tickets to the Tampa show). You have played such a big part of my transformative 2018 year so far, that i really want to carry on my musical tattoo sleeve with either a song lyric from you or a quote but i really cant decide… any chance you could help me out?? Also i just ordered your book 🙂

  • Amaylia

    Reply July 9, 2018 10:50 am

    I think it is really awesome that Ariel was able to figure out all of this through pure introspection. I don’t know if you’ve heard of something called the “Enneagram,” but you’ve basically written a book tailored for the type 4 personality, which is incredible! Type 4 in the Enneagram is described as a person who is intuitive and individualistic, but can also be self-absorbed and depressive (to _briefly_ summarize). They often struggle with what psychologist Dr. Claudio Naranjo describes as a fixation on a sense of “false deficiency.” Dr. Beatrice Chestnut describes the type as:

    > … the person who experiences an inner sense of lack and a craving for that which is missing, and yet can’t allow for the attainment of what might provide satisfaction. This archetype’s drive is to focus on what is lacking as a step to regaining wholeness and connection, but through an over-focus on the experience of a flawed self they become convinced of an inner deficiency that prevents fulfillment.
    > This Four archetype can also be found in Jung’s concept of the “shadow,” defined as “the inferior parts of the personality.” … Type Fours over-identify with those parts of ourselves we’d rather others don’t see. Although Fours may also recast their sense of deficiency as being “special” or “unique” as a way of valuing themselves on a surface level, they identify with a deficient self more than an idealized self.

    “Turn Your Pain Into Art,” is an excellent book, and has been a huge help to me, personally. I love it and it’s been more helpful to me than any of my books on the Enneagram for the reason that Ariel made her book “idiot-proof” in that she provides a lot of easy to follow steps that can be integrated into your daily life. I highly recommend that any who heavily identifies with Icon For Hire’s music check into the Enneagram type 4 personality (just search about on the internet a bit) and also absolutely get Ariel’s book! If you take it to heart, it will help you turn your life around.

    Thank you so much Ariel, for your hard work in both your music and this book… they are truly gems which I hope will be treasured for generations to come—and my thanks to all current and past members of Icon For Hire for their contributions as well!

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